Tuesday, March 26, 2013

The Uncle Diaries (continued)

I like to think that pro wrestling has made me a better uncle.

When I pick him up, I always make sure to point out the couch, look around, and pause to let him drink in the moment before I powerbomb him onto the cushions.

Of course, he usually pops right back up and points to the OTHER couch, wanting me to do the same on every piece of furniture in the room. Way to make my offence look bad, kid.

That's our game.

He points to the couch he wants and says, "Dat."

I point at the same couch: "That one?"

He says, "K."

I plant him into the cushions. He rolls over and points at the couch on the other side of the room.


I point to it. "That one?"


Powerbomb. Rinse, repeat.

This kid is doing wonders for my core strength.

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Dat: That.

K: Yes. Agreed. Ok.

Nononononono: I respectfully decline.

YoYo: E-I-E-I-O.

Of course none of them matches my favorite sounds--the shrieks of laughter when I chase him around the couch. And sometimes, when he makes no noise at all, but instead climbs into my lap and hands me a book to read to him...well, in its on way, that's a pretty fulfilling sound too.

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Wednesday, March 20, 2013

More Thoughts on Performing (And 10 Tips I've Picked Up Along The Way

Lately I've noticed my favorite part of performing is when things go sideways.

I live for those moments. Firstly of course, there's the challenge of seeing how I handle it. I learn a lot from the unexpected, especially since those things are often ones I could never have predicted. The whole reason I rehearse as much as I do isn't so I do the performance exactly the way I practiced. It's so my brain is freed up from thinking about material; I can instead focus on the crowd or the logisitics of that particulary show. Plus, knowing my material means if and when I do get sidetracked, I can move back into it when I'm ready to take things home.

Secondly--and more importantly--that's what sets  live performance apart. More and more it seems like entertainment is coming from pre-recorded mediums: television, movies, YouTube videos, recorded music. On recordings, mistakes can be fixed so everything looks perfect. Live, the audience can see fuck-ups happen. And I think those fuck-ups and deviations can make the show more real for the audience. They're seeing something they won't see on TV or hear on an album, and the only question is how the performer handles it. It makes them part of an experience they can never see on YouTube or download from iTunes. They're sharing a moment which will never happen that way again.

So if you haven't been to a live show in a while--be it comedy, wrestling, music, burlesque or anything else, I encourage you to check it out...perhaps even starting this very weekend with Real Canadian Wrestling ths  Friday, March 22 at the Royal Canadian Legion in Calgary and Saturday, March 23 at Edmonton's Glengarry Community Hall.

You may be surprised at the things you don't see on television.

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While we're on the subject of performing, I occasionally get asked for tips or tricks for a new public speaker making a presentation or hosting an event. These are things I've picked up over the years either from comedy, wrestling, teaching, or the various other things I'v done.

Here are 10 Tips for Dealing With Crowds. Take what works for your situation and don't worry about the rest:

1 - When introducing someone else to the stage, say their name LAST. Example: "This next comic has been to the presigious Just for Laughs festival and has toured all over this great country of our. Put your hands together for Andew Iwanyk" If you forget, you can cover by repeating the name at the end (ex: "It's now time for Doug, the father of the bride to give his toast.  Doug, everyone.") The reason we do this is a) it builds tension for the audience and b) it helps the performer time his or her entrance.

2 - Keep introductions reasonably short, and once you start introducing someone, DO NOT STOP. Remember, you're building the audience's anticipation to see this person. If you start rambling, you lose that anticipation. Furthermore, the performer/speaker is backstage getting ready. If you start their intro and then stop to do one more joke or explain something, you're muddying the rhythm of their entrance: they don't know whehter to approach the stage, sit down and wait or what. The exception to this rule is if you botch an intro beyond recognition, in which case you say "Let's try that again," or words to that effect so both the person you're introducing and the audience know what's going on and what to expect.

 3 - (from wrestling) Go slow. When speaking, keep your ideas short, and pause to let the audience digest or respond to what you're saying. "Last month...at Winter Chaos....you took something from me...You took my most precious posession, the RCW Mid-Heavyweight Title....and tonight....Tonight, I'm taking it back!"

4 - (from comedy) Be careful about asking too many questions. Instead of "How are you doing tonight?" try "Let me know how you're feeling out there." Too many questions can sound like you're pandering to the audience. Making statements lets them know you're in charge.

5 -  (from teaching) Whether you ask questions or not, be careful of rising intonation? Where your pitch goes up at the end of sentences? Don't do that.

6 -  (from teaching) If you find yourself fidgeting, put your hand on a desk and lean on it to keep yourself grounded. I've seen comics use the mic stand for this as well.

7  - (teaching/comedy/wrestling) Your first, best option for dealing with low-level heckling/misbehavior is IGNORE. In teaching (and comedy) trying walking towards the offenders without breaking what you're doing--often your proximity will often be enough to get them to stop what they're doing.

8 - (Comedy) When dealing with an audience response, repeat what the audience member said. That way you're sure the rest of the crowd hears it. It also gives you more time to think of how to respond.

9 - Tell the crowd how they're expected to behave. You can do this verbally--If you're teaching, outline classroom rules. If you're at a comedy show, ask for applause. You can also do it non-verbally: Good guy wrestlers get more fired up the louder the crowd gets. Bad guy wrestlers show frustration and cover their ears when crowds get loud, prompting the audience to jeer or boo louder.

10 - (Teaching, comedy, wrestling) Let the audience know what's going to happen. As in point 6, you can do this verbally and non-verbally. In comedy, the MC starts the show by letting the audience know who the headliner and feature acts are and asking for a round of applause for each. In teaching, I was told to let students know what they were going to learn and why, present the lesson, and then review it afterwards and reinforce the important points. You can also do this non-verbally. In wrestling for example, a good wrestler won't just pick up a chair and start whaling away on his opponent. What he'll do is prepare the audience for what's about to happen by looking at the chair, pointing to it, picking it up and holding it high, etc. so he gives the crowd a chance to process what's going to happen.

Oh and one more thing--and this will sound strange coming from someone who loves being onstage, but bear with me...

Don't be onstage a second longer than you have to be. This sounds counterintuitive, but it's a good way to keep yourself focused and purposeful. There needs to be a reason you're on stage and a reason you're doing what you're doing or saying what you're saying whether it's telling jokes, improvising, doing crowd work, or just stretching for time. But if you don't seem to be building towards something with what you're doing, audiences tend to get restless. Try to make each word or action count. You don't need to rush (I DID write a tip about slowing down, after all), but leave them wanting more.

Those are some things I've learned. I'm also curious about what others have found from their experience?  Performers, what are your best tips for dealing with audiences? What have you learned in your time as a performer. The floor is open for comments.

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Monday, March 04, 2013

A Facebook Status and Some Thought on Performing

 A Facebook Status I wrote:

"You know those Eastern martial arts where they use your own momentum against you? My self-doubt is an aikido master. It's creative enough to use whatever I give it against me, resilient enough to never quit, and persistent enough to always be looking for opportunities. I am lucky to have such a creative, persisitent, and resilient force in my life--not to mention the chance to learn from such a Master of the Mental Martial Arts."

To which self-doubt replied, "That's not how you spell persistent."

He's a motherfucker, that Self-Doubt.

Hell of a speller though.

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In other news, I've been loving performing again.

I have a bunch of half finished posts on various bits of performance minutiae from MCing, to some vocal and timing things I picked up from wrestling, to the use of questions, and a bunch of other stuff. The reason they stay half finished is because it occurs to me that very very very few people care about this stuff other than me.

Then it occurs to me instead of writing about it, I should be practicing it.

I don't know how other performers feel, but I love practicing, and I'm starting to love it more and more.

If live performing is sex, then the show is the orgasm--It's exciting, indescribable, and over all too quickly. No sooner have you finished than you want another one. It's also the part that people who don't know any better spend a disproportionate amount of time focusing on.

Practice is foreplay. It doesn't get the same amount of attention, but once you learn to love it, that's when you really start to get good. If you give it the time and attention and presence...the shows--like the orgasms--will take care of themselves.